Sixth Verse of the Tao Te Ching:

The spirit that never dies
is called the mysterious feminine.
Although she becomes the whole universe,
her immaculate purity is never lost.
Although she assumes countless forms,
her true identity remains intact.
The gateway to the mysterious female
is called the root of creation.
Listen to her voice,
hear it echo through creation.
Without fail, she reveals her presence.
Without fail, she brings us to our own perfection.
Although it is invisible, it endures;
it will never end.

Author’s Commentary:

As I see it, this verse is all about co-creating with Source.  The feminine aspect of Source births everything into creation.

Whether you’re male or female, if you can get in touch with the mysterious feminine within all of us, you can create the peaceful, healing divorce you desire.

It’s about connecting to your Authentic Self, your true self, your Divine essence, and from there, all creative solutions are revealed.

Move in the direction of your joy, excitement, and inspiration.  Make self-honoring choices in every moment.  Choose love over anger or fear.

Trust your inner knowing.  Use your ego-mind as a tool of the heart.  The ego is needed to live in physical world reality, but we don’t need to let it be in control.  The key is in shifting your perspective from an ego-based way of being, where fear and separation dominate, to a heart-centered existence, where love, compassion, and joy guide your decisions.

By opening to the Divine Mother (mysterious feminine) within, she will nurture and support you.

With absolute vulnerability comes absolute power, the power of your own perfection.  Surrender to this power.  Surrender to love and let go of your ego’s desire to fight for what it thinks it needs.

You are an infinite Divine Being, already complete with everything you could ever need.  Fear, anger, and resentment cloud your ability to see your own innate wholeness.

By choosing compassion for your spouse and for the parts of you that are hurting inside, you reveal the mysterious feminine, which is at the root of creation.

You are intimately connected to All That Is.  You can never be separate from It; It is within you, as you.  Listen to It’s voice, that still, small voice inside of you and you will discover that the only way out of your challenging situation is through the healing power of love.

Conflict begets conflict.  Peaceful resolution is created through going inside to resolve the inner conflict through self-discovery and healing the hurt within.  By doing so, you will see that there never was any real conflict; there was only ever your Divine Loving Essence.  All else is just an illusion set up by you as a learning opportunity.

The next time you are faced with a choice in your divorce, even if it’s only choosing your attitude toward your former partner, choose to listen to the voice of the mysterious feminine, who will be telling you to choose love, choose peace, choose to surrender to your Divine Essence, choose to take back control over your choices from your conflict-driven ego, choose to create solutions, not positions.

Every conflict has a peaceful solution built-in, which can only be revealed by choosing love.  Begin accepting responsibility for your own emotional reactions to the circumstances of your divorce.  You can decide to let ego reign and allow your emotions to control you or you can choose to trust that, “without fail, she reveals her presence. Without fail, she brings us to our own perfection.”

She is always there, birthing new creative solutions.  She is always only a choice away.

Love & Light Ahead!

Michael C. Cotugno, Esq.
Conscious Divorce Attorney & Coach
M.A. in Spiritual Psychology